Hug Your Inner Child

 


Let’s face it, we all grow up. What used to bring us happiness as children may not do so anymore. We become stoic, mature and disciplined. That’s completely normal and it is a part of growing up.

But how many of us are happy with the way we used to be when we were kids? Not many. Most of us would look back and think about ourselves as ‘cringy’ I am no exception.

Why are we being so hard on ourselves? Yes, our child version may not have been ‘cool’ but they were free. As children we lived in the moment. We wouldn’t burden our mind with anything. If we see chocolates, we would want it. If we fight with our friends, we would forget about it and play with them again. Anything can be our toy and we found happiness in little things.

The mind of a child lives only in the present. The mind of an adult lives everywhere except for the present.

The problem with adulthood is that, we have lost that ability. We look back at the past with the rose-coloured lenses of nostalgia and mourn for what is gone. We await the future anxiously. By doing this, we lose the precious moment of our present.

Adult life is complicated and our minds are burdened with things we did not have to worry about as children. This makes us unhappy. That is why we need to set ourselves free whenever we can.

We all have a child – unburdened and free – living within us. We need to hug that child tight.

I am twenty two and I love to swing. My friends and I went to the government museum in Egmore. There we saw a park and immediately we squealed in joy. We were so excited to a swing and we swung in it. We were told off by the workers – it was meant for children – but we enjoyed it even though it was for a very short time.

Those were the impulses of our inner child and we indulged in it. It is okay to enjoy things that are not ‘cool’. It is okay to crave for chocolates and ice creams as adults. It’s okay to jump up in joy and squeal in happiness.

It is absolutely okay to give yourself to the silly little things that makes you happy. You don’t have to be stoic and tough all the time. In fact, denying ourselves is a violence to ourselves. We are here for us so, let’s freely give us to ourselves.


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